Posted by Jost on July 8, 2006, at 19:00:23
In reply to Re: wow » wildcardII, posted by KayLen on July 8, 2006, at 13:24:01
Kaylen, could I ask why you went back to him?
That is, how did it come about?
Because from what you said, his affair, betrayal, and other dishonesty went on for a long time.
I don't want to judge or be unfair, but the lengths to which he went--particularly with money, the business, as well as what you heard discussed-- suggest something beyond a man's falling out of love with his wife, or for whatever reason, feeling that a relationship no longer could continue.
There are ways to end a relationship that are respectful, careful, and safe.
The events and actions you describe not not that. I would worry that someone who did those things has deeper issues which, unless they've been worked on and resolved, would return.
Has your husband had therapy? Has he changed in a way that would make you believe that he can be trusted?
I'm concerned for you.
Jost
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