Posted by KayLen on July 6, 2006, at 5:09:31
Hello to all:
This is going to be hard to keep it short. I will try. aprox. 9 yrs ago my husband forced me out of a sucessful biz that we both founded and made a sucess. He had never even given me a clue he was not happy with me in the biz. He then hired a woman half his age in my place and began an emotional affair. Everyone tells me im an idiot because I believe he did not have sex with her. That doesent matter anyway because his love for her and loyalty to her and his total and complete insidious abuse and betrayal {and she began to abuse me also.}was so bad it made the act of sex seem that if that was all that was going on would be a blessing. I didn't divorce but when it reached a point of cruelty I could not stand any longer, i moved part time to another state. My husband showed NO interest in me until he realized I had a boyfriend. He then began {still keeping his young love}to call ME the betrayer! The abuse verbal and emotional,really stepped up. On the phone when i was away also . He had tapped and taped my phone when I was there at our house. So I felt I had better bug the office. The things I heard , was like a badley written soap opera. I discoverd he was hiding money from me THEY were. and I discoverd he wanted to divorce me and told his gal "I will claim bankruptcy, and she {me} will be homeless and pushing a shopping cart within a year. I was much smarter than he knew. I kept bugging and taping. In the process I heard where he was going to hide the finacial info.and I got it ...from check stubs to hard drives, I heard his girlfriend say "You know she has caused me so much misery...I want to hurt her..I REALLY WANT TO HURT HER. And I have enough evidence to get them both in more trouble than they could handle..to make a long story a bit shorter {im leavng out a whole lot of happenings}My hubby decides he wants to make our marrige work....he always told me he loved me and since I had him really good...he became nice to me even. The chickie split...and now we are trying to make a go of it. He is very mean to me..in between being very loving..and I cannot seem to let up reminding him what a nightmare he put me through for a decade...I truly have no idea what his intentions really are ..after the things i heard him say through the bugging..and I don't know if I ever will. But I believe he would like to have us back together and happy. I would like that but don't know if it is possible after he gave me up for a for someone eles...hid money..abused me so badly im ashamed to repeat some of it...and teamed up with G.F...I mean he went against me TOTALY but always kept it hid. When I began to tell my own family they didnt believe..me..I still feel completely alone in the world. Is there any hope for us?..any thing helpful to offer?..anyone ever have this happen? I have been writting a little here but for a few years have been lurking and building up the nerve to write my story, i would like to tell all..but it would take up too much space.
Any words from anyone will be considerd and appreciated.PEACE
Kaylen
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thread:664439
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