Posted by LegWarmers on March 13, 2006, at 20:26:47
In reply to Weighty issues in a marriage, posted by ExcellentCamper on March 13, 2006, at 19:22:07
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> * Has any guy here ever been able to truly accept his mate being obese or greatly overweight after once having a problem with it? If so, what brought about that acceptance?Im not a guy but if my bf or husband were to gain a huge amount of weight after marriage I would be concerned, probably more about his health but I would help him by changing general household eating habits and do physical activities *together*. Marriage with physical conditions?! That's not right as far as Im concerned, if my husband married me and said, I will only marry you if you do not gain weight... Id slap him in the face! You either love her and accept her as she is or you don't. Personally Id try to get healthy together.
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> * Or are there examples of a partner getting down to an ideal weight and it inspiring a more successful marriage?IMO the weight is not going to fix your marriage
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> * Or perhaps the larger issue is my somehow getting over my perfectionism and that self-acceptance spilling over to my relationships with others. How have you gotten over perfectionism?I think you hit the nail on the head. It sounds like you need to be more accepting of yourself and be more confindent yourself to be able to be less perfectionistic and judgemental of her... IMO
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> Answers to any one of these three questions -- as well as your patience with this long post --are appreciated.Im sorry Im not a guy, but I saw this and thought Id reply.
I hope you manage to work things out.
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