Posted by Damos on February 22, 2006, at 15:32:04
In reply to Re: Caretaker blues ....****Trigger****, posted by jonquiljo on February 22, 2006, at 5:42:09
Hi Jon,
Basically we put ***Trigger*** in the Subject line of a post to let others know that there is stuff in the post that may trigger them (cause flashbacks, remembrances etc) and be upsetting to them. Some we even try to specify in the subject for example, CSA (Child Sexual Abuse)and SI (Self Injury). So I put the trigger warning up because of the suicide content of the post. Don't worry I only learned because someone else told me.
It helps us take care of ourselves (and each other). Most of us still read the posts with triggers, but seeing them means we are able to prepare ourselves for the possible content.
Jon, to me what you said seems like a pretty normal response and why I wanted you to talk to someone. She may feel that she's been selfish too and a burden to you, so it's important to you both to get this stuff out. The constant pain and heartache is enough without all this repressed feeling. I'm so not an expert in this stuff. But I do know only too well how these feelings can eat you up and make things that much worse.
For example I had an instance last night where I realised that once I walk in the front door I have no privacy and no real existence of my own, no right to a life of my own and it broke my heart.
Your feelings and needs matter Jon, they matter a great deal. Please stay in touch.
(((((Jon)))))
poster:Damos
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