Posted by happyflower on December 23, 2005, at 4:18:08
In reply to 1st time-worries/concerns--*homophobes, don't read, posted by wyatthaslakefever on December 21, 2005, at 21:57:10
Well first of all, you are an adult, and what you do behind closed doors is your business. I am not gay, but when I was your age, what I did, my parents wouldn't of even wanted to know, nor did I think it was any of their business.
You say that your parents are okay with the gay thing, well do they honesty think that you are going to stay a virgin all your life? If this realationship developes into something more in your life, it still isn't anyone business what you do in the bedroom.
You have done nothing wrong, are their circumstances that led up to the "encounter" that is making you feel gulity? Is this someone you know well?
As far as your kids, I don't know any kids who really want or ask about their parents "first time". Most would rather not know.
Are you at comfortable with your lifestyle? Have you accepted it? It seems like you are viewing on what you are doing as being something really wrong. Thats what I am mostly concerned about.
As far as the age difference my and my DH is 23 years apart, we had mostly a happy marriage for at least 11 of the 12 years. But the age thing never really matter to either of us, it seemed to only mattered to judgemental people, who I didn't care to associate with anyways.
I say, do what you are comfortable with, keep your sex life private, and be happy with the good feelings. :)
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