Posted by caraher on December 22, 2005, at 23:40:27
In reply to 1st time-worries/concerns--*homophobes, don't read, posted by wyatthaslakefever on December 21, 2005, at 21:57:10
I wouldn't worry about what to tell your children. First, that sounds like a long way off and second, I doubt it would even occur to your son or daughter to press you for the age difference between you and your first partner, so unless you choose to bring it up it shouldn't be a factor at all.
I think a negative "outsider's" reaction to a big age difference would more likely be directed against the elder partner.
In any case your father wants to hug you. I'm sure you've done things that are genuinely wrong, yet you can hug him anyway. Here, as you say, you've done nothing horrible; and even if you had his love should still be there for you. Don't push that away out of shame, "deserved" or not!
poster:caraher
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