Posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:51:31
In reply to It Makes Me Nauseous Even to Think or Say This But, posted by allisonross on November 22, 2005, at 10:03:26
These sound like pretty common feelings for your situation to me. You might want to consider what it is that you're really upset about deep down. Is it 'really' because you still want to be with him? Think about it really hard, imagine the scumbag in all his glory. Concentrate on the flaws. Maybe even make a list of them and put it on your bathroom mirror to remind you every day that you are SO better off without him.
So what if he got with someone first? Do you really think that's going to be a positive, meaningful type relationship? Please. It doesn't sound possible for him. Just think about the type of relationships you could develope that he never ever will. He's not capable of putting another person's feelings first, so he will never know the feeling of a deep, meaningful relationship (this goes for platonic relationships as well). This woman is there because he needs someone to bully and make him feel like a big man. She was probably the first gullible woman that came along. His twisted idea of a relationship is nothing for you to feel jealous about.
Try to get your mind off it by dating those guys you spoke of. Have fun and celebrate that you are no longer in that sitution. Go out and experience what it feels like to be treated with respect, by a REAL man.
You go girl!
-T
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