Posted by allisonross on November 22, 2005, at 18:20:26
In reply to Re: It Makes Me Nauseous Even to Think or Say This, posted by caraher on November 22, 2005, at 15:00:33
> (((allison)))
> (((Caraher))))Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!
> He didn't have this girlfriend before you split up, did he?
Not that I know of
(If he did he's a scumbag; if not I'm just sorry this is weighing on your mind so much...)
Thankyou. It shocked me, because I truly never thought he'd have a woman friend, and certainly NOT this fast. He fools everyone. Abusers are masters at deception, and he said:
No one can even believe I divorced him. Bizarre, just because someone jokes a lot does NOT mean they are safe or normal.
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> I'm not sure exactly what is triggering this reaction. Jealousy? Of whom and for what?I think it is the abandoment thing. First he abuses me, then leaves (yes, I DID divorce him, but let him live with me for the past 4 years), and then he left.
Even tho I knew he wasn't good for me (understatement); it was that abandonment thing; my t said "every man in your life has failed and abandoned you.)
This girlfriend is getting an abusive man. And of course, whether or not something "must be wrong with" a never-married 51-year-old he's obviously "trading down" if he had to lose you to get her. :)
Thankyou, you are very kind and sweet. Look out, I am going to brag here; I have men AND women telling me how beautiful I am; and they guess my age at 17 years younger than I am; and even at age (gulp) 59, I have men chasing me. Okay, that's enough for the bragging segment!
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> Regardless, I hope you find peace soon. I don't think his relationship with a new woman merits even your contempt.I just LOVE what you said about "contempt" It is perfect, and I LOVE you for being so kind.
Thank you for being a part of my healing.
Hugs ((Caraher))))))), Ally
If you wanna (no shame, here) see my picture, go into www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com, and click on "About Me" :)
Because you are a guy, I would like to know what you think; it is a little insecurity right now, and I ususally have tons of confidence.
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