Posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 10:22:30
In reply to Re: Being called stupid!!!, posted by d1alla on October 25, 2005, at 7:21:37
> Hi, all: Being called names is: Verbal Abuse; the book that took me 25 years, and I consider to be the "cornerstone of civilization:" The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
I URGE you all to RUN, do not walk and get it. Verbal abuse is rampant in our society, and rarely recognized nor understood.; even by therapists (unless they have been specifically trained.
I've been counseling abused women for the past 10 years (because of 41 years of experience, and extensive research; feel free to contact me: wacalice@aol.com
Verbal abuse is about ONE THING, and ONE THING ONLY: CONTROL......they are taking their anger and rage (usually at what was done to them....in thieir childhood).
> I really think that the problem does not lie with you personally but with your partner.
Exactly.
He obviously has issues about himself and his way of venting his emotions and making himself feel ike a bigger person is to call you stupid which i find very insulting. Nn person should be trated this way and you really need to express the hurt that these comments are causing you to your partner.
RARELY, if EVER will a verbal abuse listen to the harm he has caused someone. They will always turn it around, and BLAME YOU.
Alice/Get the book, get the book, get the book (LOL)
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