Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 23:05:42
In reply to stud capabilities?, posted by Bob Jones on October 5, 2005, at 17:36:24
> So, my answer to the question is, She brings me joy, sometimes. At other times it's just plain awful.
Hi Bob,
I"m so sorry that you're going through all of this, it sounds awful. What I see is that she's getting a free ride and free medical care, you love her, and she doesn't have to give anything in return. If she's not going to contribute financially or emotionally, then what is there for Bob? You have every right to feel resentful. Does she love you? Are the two of you affectionate with each other? Once she gets pregnant will she leave you and take the child, and does she expect you to stay here and deal with it? Will she try to extract support from you even though she's taken the child?
I'd really be insisting on getting the co-counseling. You say you won't throw her out, and that is admirable, but what about you? If she doesn't want to make a life with you, you really need to get on with yours, and find someone who will truly love you in return.
I hope when she gets on meds, and is into therapy a bit, things improve for you. I'm glad you have your ex-wife to confide in, and I agree with her discomfort over the situation.
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