Posted by Susan47 on August 29, 2005, at 12:31:03
In reply to Re: Are you married, how long, and is it your firs » happyflower, posted by 10derHeart on August 29, 2005, at 2:09:54
Pfffft!!! You're not a defective failure so I hope you get over that feeling about your failed marriages, romances, whatever. Many people, isn't it around 50% of marriages that fail? Then there's the ones that we don't count, the ones that aren't making anyone happier but are co-dependent for whatever, hundreds, of reasons. Then there's marriages like my two, one with a sociopath that lasted all of three months, at which time he kicked me out with our three week-old son in the middle of the coldest winter on record, when I was calling Transition House but they couldn't take me because they were full. That's a form of absue, too. Can you imagine locking your wife out of the bedroom? Can you imagine a relationship that SICK? But he'd told me his stories of his first two marriages and they were just like what I lived through, with him, and so I'm not surprised. Then after me there was wife number four, who I'm very sure was just like him.
That was only the first marriage, the second was almost as bad in its own way.
But it sounds like for you, your first marriage was actually fulfilling on some levels and you haven't given up on marriage or on finding a good partner. So you know you can make good choices. Nineteen is pretty young and you deserve a lot of credit for having your daughter so soon in your own life. You sacrificed a lot in order to do that. I admire you.
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