Posted by kid47 on August 9, 2005, at 16:46:36
In reply to Re: Re Fall in love with yourself first! (a must read) » kid47, posted by Tamar on August 9, 2005, at 14:42:42
< I can imagine that playing in a band would help! >
Had I not played in a band, I would of been forced to become a monk. I was painfully shy as a kid.....my sixth grade teacher asked me to bring my guitar to school and play for the class on Valentines Day. When I did all the girls screamed (in a good way) and threw their Valentines at me....that was a pivotol moment. I said to myself "there might be something to this" I was never able to just walk up and talk to girls. What I found out was if you play in a band they'll come up and talk to you. God it sounds so contrived, cliche..."I play in a band". I very seldom even mention it...most people are like "yeah, I used to be in a band in college." They went to college so they wouldn't have to try and make a living playing in a band....I went to college to learn how to make a living playing....yes sorry to admit it but my first go round at higher education I was a music major. I got a record deal when I was in my early twenties and thought my career path had been mapped. After starving for a coupla years, I was with a band that got another deal and the net result of that was being sued for breach of contract. It was around that time I decided it might be prudent to consider a change in direction. With a wife and kids the constant travel was not at all conducive to a happy home life. I was in my early 30's when I decided to go back to school and get my engineering degree. I still play some....mainly for fun and a few extra bucks. I did recently, unexpectedly sell a song that a friend and I wrote, to a film company. That was a nice surprise and a good reason to go out and blow some money. I guess for me, and I hope this doesn't sound condescending, when I say I played in a band, I mean I was a dedicated, hard working, on the road sometimes 48 weeks out of a year, trying to make a living at it, professional musician. It is a MAJOR part of who I am!
> > *why*, I must say again, is it I have not been able to find someone that I can trust with my heart?
>
> Hmmm… I can think of some possible answers:
> 1. You miss your wife
> 2. You’re looking for someone to replace your wife
> 3. You’re afraid of being hurt againOk..Ok...I am truly an idiot. My communication skills are even worse than I thought. First of all thank you for your response. All your posts that I've read, are supportive and insightful. Once again my lame attempt at sarcasm has completely missed the mark!! or you picked up on it, but just in case you might be wrong, you were kind and supportive...either way I appreciate it and I really need to be less cryptic when expressing myself.
> Do you really want to trust someone with your heart right now? If it’s been less than a year since your divorce, maybe you’d enjoy a bit of fooling around with a number of women for a while. Leave your heart out of it and focus on another part of your anatomy…
I have been known to say "I have had enough meaningless sex with enough meaningless women (that sounds kinda harsh doesnt it) I don't necessarily need a new friend (although friends are great) I want to find the love of my life ( for real) I can't seem to find the instruction set on how to go about doing that. (sorry, occupational hazard)
> Do you want to see my twelve-step guide to flirting?<Yes please!!!!
Peace
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