Posted by kid47 on August 9, 2005, at 12:23:24
In reply to Fall in love with yourself first!, posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 10:16:14
> I think if you love yourself enough, you will be attractive to others.<
Love myself? That might be tough. I wouldn't even hang around with me if I didn't have to. umm...I seem to be able to attract women. The fact that I'm smart, funny, extremely good looking, incredibly rich *and* a pathological liar ( most importantly I play in a band), seems to draw an interesting type of critically dysfunctional female to me. I have been reading that book "Men Are From Mars and Women Wish They'd Go Back There" and have really been gaining some useful insight. I have figured out that my cocky attitude, which I had always attributed to a protective ficade to disguise low self esteem, really is arrogance bred from a very overblown self image and just down right conceit. The fact that I often sabotage a relationship is not actually because I don't feel I deserve love but rather I just can't find someone who is good enough for me. As you can tell, I am self improving by leaps and bounds.....and believe me, it's hard to improve on perfection!! I know...I know...about now you're saying, "kid. You are going to make some lucky girl veeerrry happy" and I'd have to agree with you....I mean really....whats not to like!! So you can probably understand my confusion why, almost a whole year after a very unpleasant divorce, disolving a 23 year marriage, after being made aware of some "slight" indescretions between my then wife and her boyfriend, the one she was dating when I first met her 25 years ago, who unbeknownst to me but later made very clear in no uncerrtain terms, right before the total collapse of my life, was the only man she'd ever really loved, *why*, I must say again, is it I have not been able to find someone that I can trust with my heart? How's that for a spew.
<If you can take care of yourself then potential mates will see you as someone who would be good to them too.>
If I could take care of myself why would I need a mate?
<Smiling and eye contact is good too!>This seems to be a recurring theme. I should probably try the smiling thing....I do have nice teeth. I'm afraid with me the eye contact might be perceived as more of a psychotic glare.....
<Good luck!>
Thanks,,but I won't need it....I've pretty much got this relationship stuff in the bag.....don't ya think?
Have a lovely day!!
Peace
kid
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