Posted by Mountain Man on July 18, 2005, at 9:25:58
Hi,
I am a 34 year old M who has had a really crappy year. Here's my story:I was (somewhat) happily married for almost 7 years, when I met a woman (whom I worked with). My marriage had been on the rocks for about 6 months prior to meeting her. We hit it off right away. Over the next few weeks, we never dated or "did" anything. However, I did move out of my home and divorce paperwork was filed.
Shortly there after, we (the new girl) began to date. It was exciting. Fun, and I felt renewed. Things moved very quickly between us (too quickly). We married in February of this year.
I maintained a relationship with my ex-wife. I couldn't turn my back on her, although I was the one that moved on. This relationship became too difficult for my new wife to deal with, and I found myself tring to "hide" it from her.
Now, I think it's important to note that there was no feelings involved in the relationship with my ex. Not romantically anyway. Of course, I will always care about her and want her to be happy. We have two children together. But, the reason I hid it from my new wife was because I knew how much it bothered her.
Nonetheless, this always came back around and caused arguments. She would accuse me of still being in love with her, etc.
The Saturday before the 4th of July, we had a big argument, and I left (I had my children for the weekend). The next day I went back and moved out all of my things. Not the first time I had done this mind you.
After two days, I felt more level headed, so I called to talk to her. She tells me that she filed for divorce that day. I was (and still am) devistated.
Another important note is that I suffer from GAD, and have been on Paxil for almost 6 years. I switched to Effexor XR on the 8th of July, I the Paxil wasn't offering me anything in the way of relief from the GAD.
Please, any thoughts, comments, ideas, etc. are very welcome. There is much more to this story, but those are the major events.
poster:Mountain Man
thread:529457
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