Posted by Jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 22:59:27 [reposted on June 27, 2005, at 23:23:24 | original URL]
In reply to relieved for therapy this week, very sh#tty day, posted by happyflower on June 26, 2005, at 19:58:09
> I am just so mad, I want to scream my head off, or cry my head off, or both.
> Does anyone else have a mother in law from h@ll?Yep, I do too, but what saved me is when our oldest was 14 mos old, we agreed to have her baptised in my MIL church because I thought it would please her, and make her like me. Well, the whole trip was hell for me, she did everything she could to make my life a living hell. At the end of the trip I threatened to divorce my husband bec. of her, and we ended up in marriage counseling, which was the best thing that we've ever done for our marriage. The counselor basically told him that he married me, and it was time to leave his mother and cleave unto me, and to be a man and set firm boundaries with her, and he did. He's been pretty good about it. She still badmouths me to the family, talks to my kids behind my back, said stuff about my mom when she was alive, barely acknowledged her death, and tries to control all of her kids. I hate her, but at least I don't have to deal with her much.
> They finally moved away 7 months ago out of state to live by her other son ( the golden boy).
Good riddence to them! I hope the golden boy gets a good taste of her hellish behavior. Is he married? You can be more free if you can just get your husband to see all of it, and to choose you and your marriage over his mommy dearest.
?Well we were going to make a trip their next month, well, it got postponed. We don't have the money right now, Tyler my stepson needed $2000.00 more than he normally needs for college this year, our central air went out, our water heater went out, and our car needs repairs, all this month. Not to mention our medical bills. Well anyways my MIL is bad mouthing me again like it is because of me why we aren't coming.
OMGosh, I am so sorry! What exactly doesn't she understand? (sarcasm) How much more clear could it be? You come first, your family comes first, and your finances have to be good to do other stuff. I"ve told my husband I won't go to their house ever again, and he supports me. He goes, the kids go, but not me. Because he can set boundaries now, she doesn't talk to him behind my back anymore. He won't let her. He supports me to her. Can you get your husband to marriage counseling?
> husband can't belive they are putting this guilt trip on him and bad mouthing me. I guess he finally sees them for what they are. I am just tired of being the black sheep in the family. The only think I did wrong was to marry her son.
I hope he can see it all now! I hope he sees more, and I hope you can get some counseling so he can learn how to deal with them! I'm sorry about the DIL, but there's nothing you can do except be there if she comes back. You have done all you can. You don't sound harsh, but some ppl are just unhappy and want everyone else to be miserable. I'm so sorry about your mom, your MIL, and your DIL. You are bigger than me because I couldn't handle all of that.
(((((hugs)))))
Jazzy
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