Posted by pinkeye on June 26, 2005, at 20:37:34 [reposted on June 27, 2005, at 23:23:23 | original URL]
In reply to Re: relieved for therapy this week, very sh#tty day, posted by happyflower on June 26, 2005, at 20:22:52
Your MIL definitely sounds very bad. Maybe not bad, but just very sad and lonely and confused.
Something that has been helping me of late is to try to undersatnd the needs people have and why they act the way they do. Previously I used to think of people as being bad when they are behaving bad, and jealous and hurting others. But now I think - "Oh, how much of hell this person must have had to endure to turn out this way".. and to understand how much of suffering people must have gone through in their own lives if they have to turn it towards others.
Maybe your MIL is a lost cause.. but your stepdautgher might be worth putting more effort into having a relationship - since she has probably gone through a very difficult time in childhood and didn't learn the right way of coping up and is taking it out on you. Maybe you can try to help her seek counselling or try to talk to her with the knowledge that you have gained from your therapy. Sometimes when we extend ourselves first, people take it.
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