Posted by Tamar on June 22, 2005, at 16:02:15
In reply to Re: so far so good, everyone, posted by sunny10 on June 22, 2005, at 8:02:49
OK, with a bit more information, I'm hearing a few alarm bells...
> She has stopped calling every day,
She called you every day? I have some very close and dear friends with whom I talk perhaps once a fortnight. Heck, I don't even talk to my husband every day. But maybe that's just me.
> She said she was going to take up hooking again in order to build up her nest egg again (to be able to move to a safer neighborhood, to be able to take a lower paying safer job, etc.).I can entirely understand someone hooking to pay a debt or to pay for drugs. But it's harder to understand resorting to prostitution as a means of building a nest egg. It sounds to me like the desperate action of someone who has profoundly low self esteem. I don't mean to be judgmental about it; I just suspect it's not in her best interests.
> But then again, she was enrolled in the AA/NA meetings at the hospital and has already told me she's still drinking.
Well, if I were hooking I'd be drinking too. But unfortunately the two things end up becoming inextricable.
> So I'm not sure her agreement with me means anymore than a shallow desire that won't actually be acted upon.
Sadly, I think you may be right.
> Maybe it's sorting itself out, though. With the fewer phone calls, I mean.
I hope so. I don't want to say anything bad about your friend, but I suspect she may turn out to be too much for you to handle at the moment.
Tamar
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