Posted by sunny10 on June 21, 2005, at 13:12:35
I met a girl just a little older than I in the hospital.
We exchanged phone numbers and have spoken often on the phone.
I got a little freaked out when she told me that she has been both a madam and a hooker; that she still has sex for money. And that she plans on going back to hooking in order to dig herself out a a financial hole she is currently in.
I know that I am a naive person. And I don't think poorly of HER for doing those things. She has had her reasons, believe me. But I am very uncomfortable being friends with someone whose life hits so many dark places in our society. It's not just who she is, but whom her "job" invites into her life- and if I am her friend, into my life.
I don't want those "extras" in my life.
How do I discontinue a relationship with a friend that I like? I mean discontinue it gently. I don't want to make her dark times even darker right now. She is a truly great person. I don't want HER involved in what she's doing for her own safety, either, and I've told her so. But how do I tell her that I can't involve myself with her if she continues to do these things without destroying her feelings?
Please help.
Thanks,
sunny
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