Posted by TamaraJ on May 15, 2005, at 14:32:10
In reply to Re: GG - How are you doing? Things any better? » TamaraJ, posted by gardenergirl on May 14, 2005, at 15:13:59
Grrrrr! I hate when that happens! It has happened to me a few times - type, type, type . . . oops, duh, where did it go LOL? I managed to save the post a few times by clicking the "forward" arrow above the address line. Very frustrating though when the post can't be saved.
That's great that you and your husband are talking more honestly about things. Communication, actually open, honest communication, is such an important part of any relationship, but more so in a marriage. Although I have never been married, I have seen a few marriages suffer because the couple just seemed to stop communicating about the important stuff. That's very encouraging that he is willing to go for counselling. Yes, since you are already doing two sessions a week, it probably would be a bit much to add another session on for you. But, he may actually benefit from going solo to start with anyway. He can deal with some of his issues, whether he knows he has issues or not, and such, and then, when you have a bit more time, the two of you could do couples counselling. You're certainly not being a baby about it.
That's really good that he is sharing. I don't know why it is so hard for so many men to share and to talk about their feelings, fears and insecurities. It's nice that the two of you are spending more time together and being more affectionate. Maybe I'm crazy, but I think that couples sometimes just get so comfortable in the relationship that they take for granted the need to grow and learn about themselves and each other. I used to be quite jaded about marriage. I really hadn't seen many good ones. In the past number of years, though, I have seen some really good ones, but it does take work. I think anyone in what appears to be a good marriage will tell you that - it is hard work to stay in love and married, but it is worth it.
Oh, I can imagine actually hearing the words "clinical depression" would freak some people out, particularly those who have never experienced it or who have never known anyone who has experienced it. And, some people just can't handle the thought of someone they love being ill, whether it be mentally or physically. Sometimes it is not necessarily a lack of understanding or compassion, but rather fear.
I'm so glad, gg, that things are looking up, and I am really glad that your depression is waning. That is very good news indeed.Good luck with your dissertation, and take very good care of you.
Tamara
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