Posted by sunny10 on May 12, 2005, at 14:22:11
In reply to Re: realization » alesta, posted by Chairman_MAO on May 12, 2005, at 14:11:56
I think we all need to keep in mind that each new relationship is with a new person.
Just because we (or our past partners) may have acted differently in the past doesn't mean we need to fulfill the same roles or assume that the one we're with is going to assume the same roles.
The mere fact that new relationships begin should tell us that a change was necessary for each party. Otherwise we would still be with past partners and our partners would still be with THEIR past partners.
The same transference we talk about having with our therapists we often practice upon ourselves and others.
We all have to fight old patterns all the time.
Give yourselves the benefit of the present and give your partners(present or future) the benefit of the "here and now".
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