Posted by sunny10 on May 5, 2005, at 10:45:18
In reply to Re: a guy thing generally?? » sunny10, posted by Larry Hoover on May 5, 2005, at 8:26:10
soooooooooo true... with ONE exception for me; dishes.
I haven't had a dishwasher since I left my parents' home and I HATE doing dishes... don't know why, I just do.
My SO HATES dishes sitting in the sink, so he'll wash them.
Wish I could force myself to NOT FEEL GUILTY, whether he comments about whether it was my turn or says nothing and doesn't seem to mind doing them himself...
Sometimes I think I need to act like I know that I'm not "supposed to do everything for everyone"... classic codependence, no?!?!?!?
Strange sentence structure there, but that's kind of the point. I DO know lots of things about WHY I need to set boundaries and "act like a normally content person".... I just don't know how to go about DOING the things I know...
Sooooooo, like I said, back to therapy for me. This time I have to find someone willing to stop "just listening" and start "teaching me" HOW to do the things I know I have to do.
Gosh, it's times like these that I feel I'm not making any sense at all.....
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