Posted by Damos on May 4, 2005, at 17:43:34
In reply to Re: Hey, Damos, is this a guy thing generally?? (nm), posted by sunny10 on May 4, 2005, at 15:03:26
Hmmm, there's nothing quite like being put on the spot is there. Now let me see, how do I answer this. Without risking triggering off the Alpha male hit squad.
Let me say that in my own case the depression just doesn't help with little things because I often can't get past; "Does it really matter?", "Do I really care?" for a lot of the everyday stuff and I'm like "If it's what you want and it's really important to you to get it done, then get it done." Around the house I can just put stuff off for ages (again I think it's the motivation thing) but then on a day when the planets align knock all the jobs over in a day or two.
However when I'm on my game the main reason people bring me onto their projects is because I make decisions (big decisions). Gather the info, evaluate the options and make the damn decision when so many others won't. My experience in all things is that some people just don't like the responsibility making decisions entails. Even ones as simple as what to have for dinner. Others just don't know how to make them, they don't follow a process to move them forward, they tend to gather and hash over, gather and hash over - men and women in my experience. Another interesting observation was that I have one customer who is chronically indecisive and I actully found that the harder I pushed him to make a decision the more he pulled back from making it. Used to drive me mad - still does at times.
My experience across life it that indecision tends to be pretty evenly spread across the sexes, but I also know a lot of men who get stuck in analysis paralysis - you know they never seem to have enough info to make the decision and they do seem to be worse than women in this respect. Maybe it's got something to do with needing to be right or not being seen to make 'wrong' ones.
In my own case I know I can go from one extreme to the other for example vacillating about getting another car for months but not doing anything but thinking about it and then deciding to do it on the Saturday morning and coming home in the new one that afternoon. There's nothing like a truly emotional impulsive purchase :-)
I'm not sure whether I've answered the question or not. I tend to think some people are just procrastinators by nature. More males than females couldn't say for sure but maybe.
Did that help? I'm not so sure.
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