Posted by sunny10 on April 25, 2005, at 8:56:03
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 22:17:35
might I presume to suggest that it is not actually the sex or sex chemical reaction that you people are "missing with regret", but the chemical that is released by close INTIMACY?
I tried to do what Alex has (and is thinking about maybe doing again). Doing that accomplished one of two terrible things for ME (maybe she is just much more mature than I....almost everyone seems to be...)
1) I felt like I was not worth a relationship (and this type of non-relationship simply bolstered my low opinion of myself. OR
2) I fell in love with the closeness that only ever existed in my mind... we'd start out as "friends with benefits", progress to affection and "sexually intimacy", and then with the affection chemicals being released, I would fall in love with them even though "I Knew" they were unavailable to me in one way or another and we'd never wind up together and my heart would be broken again, and my fear of abandonment would be realized as being abandoned again...Fill one hand with wishes and the other with sh*t and see which one fills up first, right?!? We'll just have to rely on our friendships here on Babble until we find that in our own hometowns... I feel so lucky to have "met" you guys; it feels almost selfish to hope for more!!
XOXOXOXOX,
sunny10
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