Posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 16:31:45
In reply to Re: I don't have anyone » littleone, posted by katherpoo1 on April 3, 2005, at 19:52:55
When I realized that I kept failing in establishing relationships and friendships, I very quickly blamed myself for it and tried to figure out how to fix it.
Then my therapist suggested that I become comfortable with my *own* company - OK just sitting around reading a book on an evening.
When I declared a hiatus from forming new relationships and nutured my own interests (I felt REALLY selfish for doing so, too!), POP! my present husband appeared. We've been married 3 years and I can only attribute the 18-year duration of marriage #1 as proof that I am a s-l-o-w learner.And now; here I am living at the opposite end of the country from where I started - with (guess what?) no friends. And finally, I can say that I am not as worried as I was before. If I can be happy and content and complete within my own skin and on my own time, then I'll be better prepared to share this comfort in a healthy way with others.
The day has yet to come, but I am no longer worried, Thank d*g for therapy....
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