Posted by katherpoo1 on April 3, 2005, at 19:52:55
In reply to Re: I don't have anyone » katherpoo1, posted by littleone on April 3, 2005, at 15:56:55
Hi -- it's good know I'm not the only one. (Although, I'm sorry that you, too, experience this kind of lonliness. :( ) Thanks for your reply.
To clarify... I guess the difference is that I know damn well who I am, I am a deeply grounded person, not confused about who I am or about my self-worth. I know I don't deserve to live like this!
And yet, I am confused as to why it's happening. My 'social anxiety' is not a shyness - I'm very much an extrovert - rather it's just an inability to gauge how well I'm doing in social situations. This goes waaay back, my T and I have discovered. I believe I'm a likeable person, and yet, I can't pinpoint why people don't seem to want my company -- evidenced by no second dates, no follow-up phone calls from potential friends after hanging out, and the eventual end of so many relationships.
And so, over time, my "rational" brain has started to tell me there's nothing especially wrong with me, and my "anxious" brain then worries about what I may or may not be doing right or wrong.
I recognize that I'm the common denominator in all these "relationship equations," so I must have *some* role in it, but so far my T and I haven't been able to figure out what it is or what behaviors need to change to make it better (we're working on it now).....?
I hope that makes sense. Feels like I just talked in a circle. :)
In any case, thanks again littleone - hope to hear back if you have any insights.
:) K
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