Posted by sunny10 on April 1, 2005, at 8:55:53
In reply to Re: Incapable of love? » sunny10, posted by Shy_Girl on March 31, 2005, at 20:37:13
do me a favor and re-read your reply... It sounds to me like you are waffling back and forth about how YOU feel about being alone.
I would much rather hear that you are working on why you have this fear of attachments. Obviously, to me anyway, you have been greatly hurt by loving others in the past. (I recognize that because I have said things exactly like you are saying them now. I could be reading into your reply based on what I've been through, but it just resonates so clearly in my mind that my perception of your reply just feels right.)
The problem is that you can't "convince yourself" that you don't need something/someone when you do. You may as well convince yourself that you don't need water to live. It just doesn't work.
Come on, Shy_Girl, we're your friends already...there really are kind, decent, loving people in the world. You just need to learn which ones to trust, and then trust yourself to pick the right people to surround yourself with. It's not easy- and it's not a quick fix. I struggle with this, too. We're both making a start on this just by being here. I'll be happy to listen and offer any kind of help I can...and I'm sure that others here will feel the same way when they get to read this...
XOXOXOXOX
-sunny10
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