Posted by Shy_Girl on March 31, 2005, at 20:37:13
In reply to Re: Incapable of love?, posted by sunny10 on March 31, 2005, at 9:29:52
> If you are comfortable being on your own then there's nothing wrong with you. Eveyone is different; you don't have to conform to someone else's idea of "normal" if you are comfortable within yourself.
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> If you ever feel lonely, though, maybe you'll want to look into why you feel you "can't form attachments".Thanks so much for pointing this out to me! All that really matters is whether or not I'm ok with being alone or not. I have felt lonely in the past, but I can never get close to people, so maybe I've learned to avoid people altogether. It might have something to do with my social anxiety and some body image issues I have. Right now I don't really feel lonely, but I feel like I should feel lonely.
It would be nice to have a partner, but I'm afraid I can never truly be close to anyone. I do have attachment issues. I don't even have friends anymore because I never keep in touch. This is going to be a big disadvantage for me in this world...where who you know is hugely important. That really depresses me. I would be ok if I lived my whole life alone, but it is not ok according to society and I will never succeed in life being entirely alone, so that depresses me a lot.
Thank-you again for your thoughful reply :-)
Shy_Girl
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