Posted by sunny10 on February 23, 2005, at 12:35:20
In reply to It's Not Fair, posted by Susan47 on February 23, 2005, at 12:26:34
be careful of compartmentalizing and generalizing. You do that too much to yourself sometimes as do I.
That's how we trip ourselves up. As humans, we also have a right to be wrong sometimes and that empowers us to make good on our mistakes and grow as individuals.
Another point about "nice"...My SO reminds me sometimes that trying to anticipate his needs, and then satisfying them, takes him out of the equation. He says that it makes him feel like I treat him as a puppy, not as a fellow human being. "Being nice" is not always received the way it is meant....
I am actually trying hard not to be "nice", but to learn to react appropriately. That's why the situation with my dad confounds me... I have been "let off the hook" in terms of practicing at reacting appropriately to others and their needs.
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