Posted by sunny10 on February 22, 2005, at 11:14:36
In reply to Re: Getting Older, my father » Susan47, posted by Toph on February 22, 2005, at 9:26:14
as a daughter who has been wronged by a father, I can understand what you mean--- it is asking a bit too much for them to rely on US to keep them up after they spent their whole lives knocking us down...
I feel for you, Suze, you know I do... for now, I have just decided that I will support my father's wishes, but not allow anyone to make me "responsible" for his happiness... that is way too much to ask. (He is of the same mindset as I about the right to die with dignity- it is certainly easier for me to "support his wishes"... not too much "work" on my end, now is it?!? And, yes, I do feel a little guilty that it is easier for me than it would feel if we were on opposite sides of this particular debate...)
But you just need to do what you've all told me to do- to decide what is right for you and only you, no matter whether other people view you as "selfish". Your opinion and feelings are just as important as everyone else's. Spend a little time figuring out what you are/ aren't willing to do for him if asked.
It's actually a good thing you are thinking along these lines before you are suddenly confronted with it!! You have time to think...
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