Posted by alexandra_k on December 1, 2004, at 17:29:06
In reply to Re: My marriage isn't in jeopardy » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on December 1, 2004, at 9:06:19
> I probably didn't emphasize the more positive aspects of our relationship. I think my husband is overall a good father. He's brilliant and funny and makes me laugh. He's a good responsible man.
> I think of our marriage as being like a wave, with crests and troughs. And marriage and commitment are what get us through those times we don't like each other too much, back to the times when we do.
> My parents detested each other. And I KNOW we don't give those vibes to our son. Tension yes, dislike no.Oh, that is good, I am glad that I misunderstood about that - for everybodies sake :-)
> But you're right about the modelling. I'm not sure what to do about it though. I try to show appropriate levels of emotion, but I don't consider it fair to burden him the way my parents burdened me. Perhaps I don't have the balance just right yet.
Oh yes, I hear you there. I have immense difficulty myself with appropriate levels of emotional expression (being diagnosed with an emotionally unstable personality type and all...). I have no idea either. I thought that you asking him what the little boy in the mirror needed / wanted was a really nice and sensitive idea. Sensitive children / people have a special place in my heart. Perhaps your son got this admirable (though sometimes painful to oneself) trait from you as well :-)
I apologise for misunderstanding. Take care
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