Posted by JenStar on November 12, 2004, at 21:14:00
In reply to Re: would like advice.... » JenStar, posted by 64bowtie on November 12, 2004, at 20:35:26
Rod, thanks for the advice. You're right about letting the other person take too much power. I may have done that because I was so flattered that she saw me as a 'saviour' or a 'great helper' or a 'great friend.' It's very ego-stroking to have someone act like you're the best thing since sliced bread! Of course, it was sort of hollow and not the kind of friendship I like. Once I got sucked in I felt bad saying no.
It probably all goes back to my childhood when I had bad gradeschool experiences (kids made fun of me a lot). I always, always wanted to be liked. Although I THINK I'm past that, apparently I'm not really. Sometimes I get too overwhelmed ("You like me! You really, really LIKE me!"). Couple that with a soft heart and you get a messy situation.
Anyway, thanks again!
take care,
JenStar
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