Posted by sunny10 on November 8, 2004, at 13:39:14
In reply to Re: would like advice from my babble buddies, posted by ron1953 on November 8, 2004, at 13:07:40
yeah, I gotta go with Ron on this one...I've BEEN that clingy friend in the past, and I still HAVE one calling occasionally, whom I calmly listen to for about a minute, and then say I have to go. I have established boundaries now, and I won't let her through them again. I had literally answered her every desperate call, been late to work in the morning becuase of a middle of the night phone call/emergence visit- only to have her MARRY the guy she had been upset about those sooooo many times. And then SHE was too busy to squeeze ME in her busy schedule??!! She has the cojones to still call once in a while- when she's bored. You are more than a patsy, and so am I. Nip her in the bud!
At neither time did I feel "healthy" until I put my foot down. Sounds like you are over that co-dependent stage already, by your choice of words....you already know what you need to do... ask her to stop calling... don't move backwards!
You said all of that yourself in your post. We are definitely backing you on this one! Your instincts are good.
-sunny10
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