Posted by 64bowtie on November 12, 2004, at 20:35:26
In reply to would like advice from my babble buddies, posted by JenStar on November 8, 2004, at 12:39:16
JenStar,
My primative self from my torrid past would just make about three appointments for lunch, or dinner, or coffee, only to stand her up. After the third time, things would slow down. You think she's gonna make an appointment just to be stood up?
Today, I don't condone coercion and deceipt. I suggest you go directly to her. Take a mutual friend as a "buffer" zone if somehow she intimidates you. Whatever the outcome of the conversation, you will have peace and freedom from the situation you feel you are in right now. Your peace of mind is a commodity worth taking care of.
In a future sense, ask yourself why you so easily give over your power to this other person. Giving over your power is what you do by trying to be friendly to someone you don't even like. You ascribe some level of allegience to them, allowing them to manipulate (control) the conversations.
You are worth so much more than this.... Best of luck. She doesn't really wield much power. Just tell her what you think and move on, allowing "time 'n' tides" to pass to fill in the rest...!
Rod
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