Posted by just plain jane on October 20, 2004, at 23:14:54
In reply to Re: (above for Adagrace) » dazedandconfused, posted by AdaGrace on October 18, 2004, at 10:42:33
AdaGrace,
Already I see your wisdom and self respect kicking at the walls you have built around yourself, imprisoning you with your perception of his "love".
I agree with you (and your T), this is something that is yours, and yours alone, to heal, to bear the scar, to learn and to use what you have learned to help yourself toward being who you really want to be.
And I'd bet that who you want to be will not be taken in by the likes of the con man who tried to steal your self-respect.
But...
No-one can take your self-respect, your honor, your love; no one can take these innate gifts from you. The worst they can do is to interfere with your perceptions of these aspects of yourself.And interference can be tuned out and eventually eliminated, allowing you to refocus on how you truly desire to live. I'm not thinking you'd want to be at the mercy of a heartless fool who would do such callous things.
The fact that you are not sure you want to leave your husband suggests to me that perhaps he would benefit from joining you at a T session or three... to talk about the spit and how to make love and, well... all that good stuff. But, in my opinion, NO... don't ever give him any more information about the other man thing. Like I said, that is yours alone to bear. And your husband can never use it as a means of hurting you further.
just plain full of it tonight jane
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