Posted by just plain jane on September 27, 2004, at 19:14:44
In reply to » PJ » Would you still like him...., posted by 64Bowtie on September 27, 2004, at 14:20:55
Rod,
Thank you for your inquiry and input.
If he grew up and found self-respect he would not be him.
No, I would not like him anyway.
His attitude about women is so "old world" (as his T told us), which is a pleasant way of saying he regards women as inferior creatures barely capable of intelligent thought, untrustworthy, constantly trying to take away his power (of course, with their genitalia and breasts, you know), and truly only good for screwin' and slappin'.
He tried to MAKE me ask for help and want help and treated my lifelong independence as a control issue. Shyt, I don't want to control anyone's life but my own, thank you!! And sometimes I even hide from that, I've often been crappy at it.
So, "grow up" is a term I do not believe will ever apply to him. He is forty-six, his behavior is that of a spoiled toddler, complete with the "I'm not getting my own way" tantrums and blaming everyone else for any/everything and expecting someone to change his diapers for him once he's crapped them up.
I bailed him out finanacially to the tune of letting all my debts be unpaid for months. My mortgage banker was gracious enough to extend my balloon, but the two credit cards I had sicced the collectors after me; my credit, which was fine, is now in the septic tank. He's losing his house and expected me to try and make his outrageous payments (five times the amount of mine - on a place I would never have wanted myself) while mine went unpaid and he sat around eating food I provided and whining because he is fat, and finding a way to get "injured" every time he started to work, and anything to try to sue someone. and on and on
and onGrow up and find self-respect? So much easier to lay his waaaah waaah in another woman's lap. Before me he was real good at finding reactive barflies who drowned whatever thought processes they had with alcohol. That's most likely where he'll go back to from here.
And I... am taking a sabbatical, rebuilding my life, on my own, as I should have done from the start.
GAD! Sorry.
I bet you're real glad you asked
thanks anyway.
just plain jane
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