Posted by B2Chica on September 21, 2004, at 14:33:06
In reply to Question about boundaries?, posted by Racer on September 18, 2004, at 19:07:58
wow, had to look twice at the name of poster cuz i would SWEAR "I" wrote this.
I'll be honest i still don't really understad about this 'boundry' thing. it doesn't make sense to me cuz...well it just confuses and upsets me. as soon as i get set up with a new T this is #1 on my list of 1000. so if i get some info i'll list helps.
> One area where this has come up is with people who come into my life and seem to want to smother me. People who will try to solve all my problems -- usually by applying pressure to me to do something that might work for them, but doesn't fit me; or people who are lonely and just want to glom on to *anyone* and find me first; or people who see me as so feeble that they can manipulate me into any form they choose. And then, of course, there are the Politically/Psychologically Correct folks who still don't see why anyone should have any privacy --!!!!!!
"Tell me why you aren't smiling today? You must have some problem that you *must* tell me about?" (Or, in my case, it's often questions about my weight -- "you're so thin, what's wrong with you?")
!!!!!and let me add- "you don't even have any curves anymore, you look like a 12yr old boy", "you look sickly" (which i don't!), "why don't you eat?-after eating small portions/not abnormal just small, it's like if i don't eat an entire lb of beef i'm not eating!
oh, and then there's the ever present "are you depressed right now? talk to me" "what's bothering you" (i want to scream YOU! get out of my face!)
geees!again, i had to double check the poster name Racer, can i just copy and paste my name to your post and say DITTO!
here's to us figuring out this 'boundry' thing and cautiously dealing with people!
b2c.
poster:B2Chica
thread:392409
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