Posted by emmanuel98 on January 10, 2012, at 18:26:50
In reply to Re: lonely/dbt/borderline?/crazy? » paisleygirl, posted by Dinah on January 10, 2012, at 8:52:08
When I started seeing a DBT therapist and going to a group, I continued to see my p-doc for therapy ever week. He wasn't trying to get rid of me at all. He just beleived in DBT and thought it would help me. He even said that he's thought of going and getting training himself in DBT, but feels he's too old (he's now 72) to start something new.
It is actually hard to find DBT groups. I was very lucky that there is a women's group that is grant-funded in my city and it had an opening. Finding an individual DBT therapist was very hard. I must have called 50 people. I went to my insurance company website and looked up therapist who listed DBT as a specialty but I found that few of them really specialize in DBT. I was about to give up when this SW called me and had an opening and did nothing but DBT work.
DBT is strongly rooted in Buddhist philosophy -- mindfulness, meditation, acceptance, learning to sit with pain and let it go. I also go to AA and find AA and DBT very similar in their approach to life. I have found DBT very helpful. I had made two suicide attempts and been hospitalized several times, often for weeks at a time. Since I made a deep commitment to DBT, I have not been hospitalized and have learned to control my depression and suicidal urges. My husband is much happier, my daughter is much happier, my friends are much happier, my life feels less out of control.
DBT is great. I hope you can find a group.Also, in terms of issuing ultimatums -- I was addicted to opiates and my p-doc told me if I didn't stop he would have to stop seeing me. I went to see another p-doc who specialized in getting people off opiates and he said, what your p-doc did was very loving. He is using your love for him to force you to address this problem because he truly cares for you and worries about you.
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