Posted by Dinah on January 10, 2012, at 8:52:08
In reply to lonely/dbt/borderline?/crazy?, posted by paisleygirl on January 9, 2012, at 22:27:55
I'm not a fan of using the relationship to pressure a client, but it's an old tried and trued therapeutic technique. It's likely that your therapist doesn't intend it as rejection.
Can you ask her what you see as happening in your own relationship if you do start DBT? I think that the DBT structure is to have a private therapist in addition to the groups. Is she going to be that private therapist? If so, then she's not getting rid of you. She's just trying to get additional help from you.
Does she have a DBT group in mind? I was looking for one for the longest time, but it wasn't offered on an outpatient basis. Have you read Linehan's books? I think I'd be excited about the idea of starting DBT. If done well, it sounds great.
How is your relationship with your psychiatrist otherwise? And mind you, I do see why you're angry when something so essential to you is used as a lever. My therapist discussed the technique with me a time or two, but never went so far as to make the ultimatum. Things do crop up from time to time that can cause anger in a therapeutic relationship. With a skilled therapist and commitment on both sides, it's possible to learn from those experiences.
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