Posted by kerria on November 24, 2011, at 7:49:32
In reply to Re: So hurt by T- need support » kerria, posted by Dinah on November 23, 2011, at 12:53:06
> That isn't just one thing, it's many things, and it does sound like she's overwhelmed right now. Do you find her helpful at all? Are there other alternatives?
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> I don't understand the part about the next morning myself. I don't know about her vets, but at my vets we can't just walk in for a spaying anyway. We need to make an appointment.Hi Dinah,
The first available appt the vet had was the very next morning. T was insisting that i take it but it was too much to get ready and an hour away besides. The thing is that she should know that it would have been too hard for me to do and should have let me schedule another day so i'd be able to do it.
She doesn't understand how it is for me at all and is negative towards me for having the disorder that i have and i hate having it. i'm negative about it myself- it's too hard to live everyday. i just struggle doing the best i can and everyone around me misunderstands how even simple things for them are difficult for me.It's a lonely struggle and i wish i had a T that understood. That would be helpful. i used to have a T that specialized in DID.
T's personality is nice and we have a lot in common- but the recent obsession with animals in me finds common ground with her love for animals,that strengthens the part that is destructive in me i think. i am going to t. for that reason alone even, to get over that bc that part came and suddenly took over most of my daily life
i feel so bad that T said "i am getting like you."
bc it means that she doesn't understand about separate parts. Also she is negative against me - the way she said to the person at the vets 'She is a multiple problemed person' against me asking them for an appt on another day.
i wish she knew how hard it is for me- that when you have a part take over your schedule it's not the same thing as when your schedule is filled with appts seeing patients. i never chose to try to take care of too many cats and give all my time and money for that. It's a horrible symptom of the disorder i have. And it still takes up all the time- it's so sad and frustrating for my family and for me. T forgets that i came to her for help getting over that.
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