Posted by floatingbridge on August 16, 2011, at 15:34:29
In reply to help - feels like an impasse, posted by lucielu2 on August 5, 2011, at 5:10:45
Hi Lucielu and other moms here. I really didn't know there was a common insecurity around wondering that one will duplicate the failures/pain w/ one's own mother in their own relationships.
Good luck to you all navigating these adult (almost adult?) child transitions.
Being a mom can be a difficult line to walk. I don't know at what it might be like to be a father.....
I taught undergrads for awhile. I really adored them. So many were so doubly excited, on their coltish legs, drunk on merely sniffing the air of possibility. I saw how much they truly cared when parents visited, when little care packages came, how much they held onto their lifelines of knowing they were held in love and esteem at home. Even if they roll their eyes in the next breath and say 'my mom' in that exasperated tone reserved for deep relationships. I was the person they could tell, yeah, my parents drive me crazy in the most endearing ways that spoke of a deep regard, even an dependence growing inot interdependence that maybe all of them could not express fully to their parents.
I dig a pony.
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