Posted by Anemone on August 7, 2011, at 21:33:13
In reply to Finally trusting the relationship, and then this -, posted by annierose on August 7, 2011, at 11:55:45
Hi Annierose,
I can understand how angry you are, you were looking forward to feeling the caring and trust in this relationship again, and she disappointed you. I know how upsetting it feels to be mad at one's T.
From reading the texting between you both, I can tell you are really hurt, and also that your T didn't mean to hurt you. I get the feeling that from your perspective, you think it'd be polite for her to call you to double check with you before giving the time away, while perhaps she thought since you didn't call back, it meant you didn't want the time?
Maybe my relationship with my T is different from yours, but hopefully it will be helpful to you if I share.When my T offers me a time, if I don't call her back to confirm I want that time, she assumes I don't want it and offers it to another client. I feel pressure to call back ASAP to confirm the time, because she gives it away to another client if I don't call.
I guess you don't treat your reps this way, so you wish your T also would treat you like you treat your reps.
I can feel your pain and hurt. It's never fun to be mad at T. I hope you will manage to go see her anyway, so you can yell at her and let her hear you.
Sending you invisible heart balloons of soothing good wishes.
Anemone
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