Posted by pegasus on April 25, 2011, at 13:06:15
In reply to Guys, PLEASE...what should I do???, posted by Annabelle Smith on April 24, 2011, at 18:11:32
Hey, I think you know that we can't tell you what you should do. And if we did, it wouldn't be right for you to go ahead and do that, because someone here told you to. We might know your story, as you tell it here, but you are the only one that has the entire big picture.
Good work on your second post! You have the tools inside you. I get the sense that you don't believe what you said in that post, yet. But the first step, which you've executed very well, is to come up with what the arguments are, if you could believe them, from within yourself.
I liked the question above about whether there is something useful for you about feeling trapped right now. Maybe, if you're trapped, does that mean that you're not responsible? Responsibility is a tricky beast, and it's the other side of the same coin as freedom. You do seem to be struggling a lot with managing that freedom.
The blessing in the freedom/responsibility package is that you can make a good future from whichever path you choose. So, while maybe it feels like there is no right choice, there also is no wrong choice. Yes there are pros and cons, but they are all workable. Really, truly, I promise. It may feel like a catastrophe, but you don't have to think about it that way.
And, at the same time, it's OK to allow that this is a tough choice, and you will be giving up something valuable, either way. I see you going back and forth between 1) things are fine, I'm making all this up, and 2) things are horrible, and it's a catastrophe. I wonder if there is some truth in between that you can find? Like, this is really hard right now, but it's going to turn out OK in the long run. Or whatever feels more true to you.
- P
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