Posted by emmanuel98 on March 20, 2011, at 19:22:43
In reply to Re:, posted by annierose on March 20, 2011, at 10:49:57
Dinah - I am sorry this ending so badly after such a long relationship, but OTOH, you have been complaining about him falling asleep, seeming dis
engaged for a long time.
I saw a p-doc for therapy for five years. We cut back to once every 3 months for meds, which was too hard on me, and now see one another every months.
One of the things I have always found hard about him, but also respect about him, is that, for the very beginning he has raised again and again, what are we doing here? What are our goals?
By year five, we both realized there wasn't a whole lot left to do together. Ending the relationship would be hard on me and we would do that gradually, but he does dynamic psychotherapy and we had pretty much gone deeply enough into my past and my emotions and responses and defenses that there wasn't much work for us left to do.
He wanted me to find a DBT therapist to work with so I could get more help in building my tolerance to distress and regulating emotions.
There's something to be said for this, although I found it painful often. Otherwise therapy can drag on endlessly to the point where neither the therapist or client really know what they're doing together, yet there's too much dependence to terminate cleanly and lovingly.
So maybe it's time for you to end or, as you put it, stop making appointments with him for the time being.
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