Posted by Dinah on March 22, 2011, at 8:03:31
In reply to So sorry, posted by Tabitha on March 22, 2011, at 1:50:07
Thanks Tabitha. Risperdal is a wonder, and good old denial is helping.
He called last night as he said he would when I told him I just couldn't handle it anymore, and needed to consider it just as having no appointments scheduled indefinitely.
He reframed it well, in that he took far more responsibility onto himself and far less on me. I'm not sure the difference means anything in terms of result, and I doubt I'll ever forget what he said, but I do appreciate his focusing on how he lost track of the meaning of therapy to me and didn't do a good job of negotiating the shifts that were taking place in our relationship.
He also was far clearer that it was my choice, not his, when to terminate. And said that his remark about termination was meant as a way of remarking that he hadn't been really in tune with what was going on between us rather than an expression of regret that we continued on, or some sort of threat that he would do that.
I still think this says about the same thing, albeit it in a less offensive manner. And one that makes it clear that if I want to continue, he'll do his best to do better. At least he didn't make matters worse by his explanation.
I'm not feeling any desire to return, and be upset again by his lack of engagement. But at least I'm feeling like that's my choice again, rather than his.
I'm going to be like Scarlett I think, and think about this "tomorrow". I'm not sure when tomorrow might come. Maybe the best thing is if I just keep detached myself, and it becomes a non-issue.
poster:Dinah
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