Posted by Daisym on February 8, 2011, at 15:43:46
In reply to one more thing..., posted by Annabelle Smith on February 8, 2011, at 14:32:47
Research actually shows that "faking" a smile results in one feeling better. The mirror neurons in our brain react to the feedback loop we get from others - and when we smile, typically they smile. So maybe it starts out forced and faked but if you are open to it, you might find tiny bits of good feeling. Nurture these.
My therapist often tells me that the trick in life is to know who to tell what to. You have "fun" friends who keep you up but can't go deep with. And you have "deep" friends (maybe one or two) who you confide in, or just sit and feel bad with. And we all have many acquaintences whom we enjoy but have no lasting connection to. Thank goodness this is true because it would be so exhausting to be in touch with your feelings all the time and to have to manage that! I think I'd be a walking psychological bruise if this were true.
If your session gets canceled - perhaps try a two voice writing project. Be yourself and be your therapist. Really try to get in character what he would say (not what you want him to say) and respond to that. You'll be surprised where it goes.
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