Posted by sigismund on August 24, 2010, at 22:48:01
In reply to Deja Vu with therapist, posted by widget on August 24, 2010, at 2:48:44
Long after I'd finished my therapy I went back to her to ask some advice.
She was so pleased to see me, I asked her opinion, and then she said 'If you want to drop in from time to time, that would be nice', which she must have had second thoughts about because next time I went she said she would be happy to see me but I would have to pay. That stung a bit but I understood. She'd always been pretty strict, not in the sense of offering far out interpretations but in the sense of respecting boundaries. And that meant that we would not be social friends. It's in my nature to feel that the social friends have the more real substantial relationship, but I'm sure that's not true.
In the same way you are trying to find in therapy what you missed before. But because (I wonder) it's an inner lack, you end up trying to grasp what cannot be grasped.
Anyway, I never saw my T again, and then she died.
I should have written. She would have loved that.Once she went away for 9 months, 3 years into a 5 day a week therapy schedule. I fell apart, as you can imagine.
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