Posted by Daisym on March 17, 2010, at 0:22:51
In reply to Re: Why do I need my therapist? » Daisym, posted by Workinprogress on March 5, 2010, at 1:49:10
Sorry about the delayed response but life has been super crazy. I cut back on my sessions and then freaked out and put them all back. This is all related to what I posted - fear of the closeness, fear of my feelings.
We keep talking about being in relationship to people who "know" what happened to me and those who don't and about how hard it is to keep hiding myself.
My therapist tells me that this is a major part of my therapy - learning to trust that getting my needs met isn't going to result in disaster. And learning to trust that the relationship can survive disappointment and anger on both our sides. He has shared his frustration with some of our interactions which is terrifying but provides the opportunity to survive something I fear - not being perfect. We even developed a new mantra for me, "Perfect is boring."I guess this is a really long way to say that I agree with you - the relationship is very healing.
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