Posted by emmanuel98 on March 2, 2010, at 20:07:12
In reply to Re: Reassurance » annierose, posted by antigua3 on March 2, 2010, at 18:13:21
My T always said that he cared a lot about me. He would say, of course I care about you. We see one another for an hour every week, which is more than I see most friends. Once I said he only cared about me because I paid him and he wouldn't see me if I couldn't pay him. He said, that's not true. If you lost your job and couldn't pay, I would still see you and you would pay me what you could afford, maybe only $10 a week.
Some T's won't say these things. They get freaked out by transference issues. But I always felt, with my T, that he really cared and, while I was definitely in the throes of transference, it wasn't all transference and distortion. We had a real, human relationship, even if it was limited by the institutional constraints of therapy.
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