Posted by catlady on February 25, 2010, at 20:53:16
Is it wrong to want reassurance from a therapist? My therapist mentions termination and cutting back appointments a lot. At first I thought it was abandonment I was feeling but I realized it was actually rejection. I canceled last weeks' appointment because I was so upset and met with her this week. All I wanted her to say was I care about you. I am not rejecting you. I will be here if you need me. Instead she started talking about how maybe therapy wasn't working or maybe I need a different therapist. Then I felt really rejected and told her please don't do this. I was really upset and crying. Finally we kind of worked out the rupture but I left wondering if it was wrong to want her to say something to comfort me or am I supposed to get it from myself. I know there is no guarantees that she will be there or any guarantees at all about life but why couldn't she give me any reassurance? I had a lot of rejection from people and don't deal with it well.
Please let me know what you think. This has really upset me.
poster:catlady
thread:937900
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