Posted by TherapyGirl on January 4, 2010, at 19:48:08
In reply to Re: T says I have poor manners! I am very upset!, posted by rnny on January 4, 2010, at 16:32:56
Hi, Fries. I'm so sorry. I can imagine how hurt you are. Two things occur to me (and please take both with a grain of salt, as obviously I speak from my personal experiences):
1) You are perhaps harsher than you realize with this T because you are still upset about losing your former T. That's how that would work for me -- I'd have a hard time not comparing new T to old T.
2) New T has a more direct, blunt manner and it comes across more harshly than she means.
I think the thing you have to do is ask for specifics and tell her how hurt you are. I know I spent years with my T working on my approach, which tends to be blunt and straightforward and which not everyone appreciates. :-)
No matter what, I'm sorry you're hurting and wish I could do something to help.
(((((((((((((((((Fries))))))))))))))))))
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